Chapter 11. Other people, other ideas

Here are other ideas which I found useful in the context of realising the potential of my fundamental needs. They are in no sequence but like the needs themselves are constant and dynamic, and there when I want them.

Two sides of the same coin.

Seneca suggested that Nature produced us related to one another; she engendered in us mutual affection and made us prone to friendship, whilst Machiavelli saw that It is much safer to be feared than to be loved.

Using amicus a friend is someone I see worthy of my love; and vice versa. Someone who acts towards me as a friend would not is my not-friend, my enemy. I don't have to kill him, nor do I pretend friendship.

Learning to discriminate avoids bogus affection and falling into the emotional labour trap which denies and stifles our real feelings. video

Jennifer Nedelsky:A proper conception of autonomy must begin with the recognition that relationship, not separation makes autonomy possible. More.

We learned of Professor Nedelsky from Professor Carl Stychin from Reading University at a legal seminar he gave at Sussex University on 11th Feb.2000. Do a Google search to find the range of titles both bring to our notice. Find full paragraph from Nedelsky on www.becoming-human.com

Stacey to Ruby has the line "I've never done an unstupid thing in my life". The double negative catches the imagination but many of us could say the same thing about parts of our lives.

Shirrk. To defer to or stand in awe of another is an offence to Allah; I find it offensive and demeaning. Why not say so when you see it happening?

James Fleck's innovation model (adapted by Shirley May) reflects good enough parenting to enable, encourage, affirm and support children to know their mind and speak their own feelings as they deal with crises in their own lives.

We gladly acknowledge meeting James Fleck when he gave a seminar on Design for Usability at the University of Sussex on 4th June 2004. His essay F leck. J (2003) "The Artefact - Activity couple: The co-evolution of artefacts, knowledge and organization in Technological Innovation as an Evolutionary process. Edited by J.Zinman

Here's a novel approach to an unimaginative management used to banging its head against a brick wall

Staying with Fleck's model. Management in a social situation can be there for its shop floor staff. Staff who are out of their depth find what is problematic and bring it to a management lab. Since caring is essentially innovative there need be no shame at such a sense of inadequacy being shared and understood as in a Connexion

Response, what's on your mind
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