On Becoming Human IndexMy beefs are about emotional environments in which we are inhibited and in which, by default, we sell ourselves short, try too hard, take on too much and probably put a brave face on it. Understanding our predicament we can find new friends and new ideas and start the long haul to becoming essentially human. |
Debbie Mazhindu whose thesis started this witch hunt
Chapter 2. Emotional labour - the scope of it.
Katy Howkins; on cleaning up the mess
Janis Daniels and her wedding dressses
Linden West and his research into emotional labour
on hurt feelings and emotional labour, of resentment and not letting it show
Chapter 3. Emotional labour - another perspective
Karen Messing, a Canadian academic authority on emotional labour
Michael Shooter, on human resilience and the healing power of friends and family
Chapter 4. Chilling out, and talking it through
Orly Benjamin, to help us to negotiate
The value of a crisis if we want to make good
Chapter 5. Market research in an A&E
Donald Winnicot whose good enough is an antidote to the ideal
Max Weber opened my eyes to what he calls the spirit of capitalism
Alieu N 'Jai, an Islamic friend who made such sense
On saying no when it's particularly difficult to do so
Madeleine Bunting, that the work ethic makes us emotional pygmies
Andrew Daniels, a salutary reminder of missing the point
Dot and Jim, Eastenders of Albert Square. Ask how did it happen?
Chapter 8. Permission to speak, Sir.
When I was a number, 2740559.
Luigi Menchini, mi amigo, and larger than life
Irving Goffman on being kept in our place
Chapter 9. Pause to invite anyone to join in. It's never too late
Willis Harman and our fears
Running through my bleak experience we see
* tyrants and control freaks lurking, devouring who they can
* the irrationality of trying to do what simply cannot be done
* ordinary people stigmatised to become invisible
* of going through life unaware of our own valid feelings.
Chapter 10. Some who've helped me move away from arid zones
Trevor
Pateman and his essay on the matter of unlearning
Dostoevesky and his stigmatisation of Jesus
Adam Phillips who says there's nothing wrong with us
Michael Eraut, who gave me emotional labour
Richard Wilkinson, who helped me off the status hook
Chris Freeman, a wise man who encouraged me
Graham Davey who helped me with the catastrophic
Charles Abrahams, a social psychologist
Dipak Patel, a good friend
John Mackinnon Jardine, who loved me
Carlos Casoni, a passionate artist who gave me so much
Chapter 11.Other people, other ideas
Jennifer Nedelsky on shifting, if we can from a fearful individual to a social sense of autonomy.
Stacey Slater who never did an unstupid thing in her life
Shirrk, another gift from Islam
James Fleck an innovator whose ideas work in family life.
Management - a novel bottom up approach derived from Fleck's innovative model
and
reference back to secrets and lies, and what can't be said
Chapter 12. Rehumanising, becoming essentially human.
Philip Larkin on parents and fucked up children
Alice Munro with her possibility that we might be forgiven
Manfred Max-Neef, a bottom up economist who makes a difference
and
his depressing yet liberating idea of qualified satisfaction of fundamental
human needs
Moving to a
Connexion
Chapter 13. that relating is connecting with each other.
Katy's installation
Meeting Tui in a safe place.
Chapter 14 becoming human; doing a Connexion
what becoming human might mean; compare your ideas with those we've come up with
Suspend judgement with a slide show
Print out Appendix A, the map
Apply that map to any situation that's on your mind
Use it to identify any suspect aspect of that troublesome situation;
And where possible identify the evident emotional labour
Go round the rehumanising process again, starting at chapter 9
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